I worked as a life coach for a few years and helped a lot of people as I shared about positive thinking, owning our choices, and tools to be happier. Yet, while I was pretty happy most of the time, I often felt like I was on a roller coaster. I wanted to find something that would make it easier to be happier without having to work at changing negative thoughts to positive… to get me off the roller coaster.
What I discovered was that I wasn’t really loving and accepting myself completely – mistakes, flaws, and all! No one had really taught me to love myself, I had been told to love others, love God, love my parents, etc. but not much about loving myself. So, during Lent last year, I guided to practice loving myself every day for 40 days… the 40 Day LoveFest. So, I used some tools from my coaching practice and added in specific love practices and it worked! At the end of the 40 days, I had changed, my thoughts were naturally more positive and I naturally made better choices.
40 Day Love Fest is a bestseller. Congrats! How has your career changed?
WOW! Developing the 40 Day LoveFest program and becoming a bestselling author has swung open doors that I’ve been knocking on for years. Luckily, during those years, I had kept on knocking, kept on helping people and developing relationships, but now more people listen.
Those open doors have allowed me to focus solely on sharing my message and teaching others how to love themselves, how to build a foundation of self-love that will increase one’s happiness and success.
Why is it so hard for people to love themselves?
There are SO many reasons why it’s hard to love ourselves and I’m already writing additional books specific to some of those reasons. But I believe the most significant reason is that we are simply not taught and encouraged to love ourselves. Self-love is often confused with egotism and selfishness; self-love is almost discouraged! Another major issue is that we look for some future event to happen, then we’ll be happier such as when we make more money, lose weight, get married, retire, when the kids are grown, etc. etc. There is always an excuse why we don’t take time to love ourselves and create happiness now.
It may be corny, but I believe that what the world needs now is love sweet love. Why is it so hard for people to love others?
I completely agree – what the world needs now is love! It’s hard to truly love others in an unconditional way when we don’t love ourselves first!! If we are constantly looking for fault in ourselves, that is what we also look for in others.
We are told to love our neighbors as ourselves, so that is what we do… the problem is that most of us don’t love ourselves much. How we treat others is a reflection of how we treat ourselves.
My mission is to help people with a practice of self-love that takes just minutes each day!
Where can we buy your book?
Locally, Pages Bookstore and Family Christian Bookstore, both in Flint. Online they can find it at Amazon, in both paperback and Kindle, and at Barnes & Noble in paperback.